Focus on relationships when building a balanced life
As social creatures, we have a need for belonging. The feeling of social belonging and connection is one of the most important factors for reducing stress, which you can find numerous studies about. With this background, it is going to be important to focus on relationships when building a balanced life. But however good relationships you have in your life the most important relationship is the one you have with yourself.
Finding and maintaining life balance has a lot to do with your relationship with yourself. You can either sabotage yourself, or you can help yourself become a better you.
First, have a look at the relationship you have with yourself
When you want to build a balanced life and you’re focusing on relationships, start by looking at the relationship you have with yourself. Are you secure in yourself, or do you need other people to fulfill something in you? If this is the case, you might get clingy or insecure with other people.
Also, try to pay attention to what is going on inside your head. What are the words you are using about yourself and what are you telling yourself? Try also to listen to the tone of your voice. ⠀
When you become aware of this, you then practice it. And slowly but surely you will build yourself new habits of talking to yourself.
When this happens all your other relationships will change. They will become deeper, and they are going to build on giving and receiving, instead of need. Remember, some people come into our lives just to turn and leave, try to be okay with that. Some come to stay, that is also fine. Ask yourself: who am I in relation to myself and who am I as a person in the relationships I have? Who are you, are you the person you want to be?⠀
What many of us get wrong about relationships with other people ⠀
What I think many of us get wrong is we feel we need to have as many friends as possible. That we are somehow measured or evaluated by how many people we have in our lives.
Our need for building and maintaining strong social connections is biological. But something that varies is the number of people we need to be surrounded by. Some of you want and need a lot of contact with others, whereas some of you may need a lot less of that. Whichever way you feel should be and is okay. We can have one person we feel connected to or we can have many. Even if we all have the same need it manifests itself in different ways for all of us. And This is why it’s so important to understand yourself, know thyself.
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How your relationships have an impact on your life balance
To sum this up first, become interested in your relationship with yourself, then focus on your other relationships.
Study your relationship with yourself. Who are you, how do you behave, who are you in a group of people? Then study the relationships you have with other people. It is said that you become who you surround yourself with. Thus, focus on relationships when building a balanced life
The next step to look at would be to find out why you think someone else is “toxic” and why that is a trigger for you. But let´s not take on too much at this point. Just take a curious standpoint and look at the relationship you have with yourself and others.
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